My wife and I have been playing for OB and yesterday we did our first instance through the matching system. She is playing a Priest and I have been playing a Warrior. I have always played tanks in other games, and like the feel of the dodge in this game. She is typically heals and has been willing to put up with me learning to dodge/move around mob attacks. I have been using/holding on to gear that has tanking properties.
To make things a little shorter, I have wanted and been prepared to tank (including bringing my own healer) and keep getting matched with lancers. I understand that lancers are tanks period, and I have not wanted to be a jerk about something that isn't their fault, so I just switch to the dps stance and go with it, although I made one mad because I kept pulling off him because he constantly just did some aoe move, and for the rest of the time just blocked (I honestly wasn't trying to pull aggro).
Is there a way to set roles? I would like to know if I am doomed to create my own parties, also my wife was curious in case we ran into a party with another priest or mystic.
*On a side note, I am in love with this game, and I can't wait until launch. Ty all in advance, and sorry if this is a repost, but I've been searching and found not much.